Small, not a size I ever want to be.
As we move through 2021 rather quickly, Hello March, how did you arrive you so fast!
I reflected back to February and thought what have I learned. As you might remember my word for 2021 is lessons. So every month I ask this question.
As I write this, in bed on the 28 February, I can honestly say my lesson has been I get what I ask for.
So I need to stop play small.
I have read a few books, listened to a few coaches, and pulled a few cards that all pointed in the same direction.
We get what we ask for, focus on, desire, dream and work towards.
But not having to hussle, not hard worker. It’s just about creating the containers for customers to arrive into. Or containers for you to relax more, be healthier, love more, anything you want more of.
So how do we ask, focus, desire, dream and work? Well let me tell my take on this.
Desires and Dreams
This is the starting point. You can be extremely happy and grateful for your life and still want more. This is something that I struggled with until recently.
How can I be happy with what I have and still desire more? We have been taught, especially as women that we should just “be happy” with what we have and not ask for more.
But that is not true. You should be able to vividly create your dreams and desires.
I like to do Future visualisation and journal or vision board what comes up for me. And in February I have started doing this more frequently (twice this month) and setting the intention of different time periods for the visualisation.
Ask for
This next step is important, you need to say out loud and believe the thing is possible.
I don’t mean tell the most cynical person and try to convince them – no don’t do that.
But say it aloud in affirmation or to trusted people that support you and believe with you.
The more we say it out loud, the more belief we build. When we start telling people, we find others who want the same thing and can go on the journey together.
Remember: “You’re The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With” – Jim Rohn
I like to use affirmations as part of my routine, and this month I have set 1 for the month and said it every morning, instead of changing it up. This leads me to my next point really nicely.
Focus on it
When we play small, we limit what we believe is possible for our lives and businesses. But when we focus on our dreams and desires we start to shift the belief.
I have found in business, and had reconfirmed this month that focusing on less gets you more.
You know I say don’t be everything to everyone. But I honestly believe that as a business owner starting out, you need to be really focused.
I tell my clients to focus on 2 core products or services when they start. (If you want to help figure out yours check out my Strategy Intensives)
So if you take my business I do
- Strategy Intensives
- Blueprint to Business 12-week program
This means it is easy to focus on delivering them well and also giving yourself time to shape your business and life going forward.
Work towards it
I don’t believe you can just believe, ask and then receive. You have to create the containers for the desire to come into reality.
When I work with clients we talk about who you need to become in order to have the reality you want.
This is about creating the good habits, routines, and containers to hold the money you want to earn and the way you want to live your life.
What is a container?
Simply put it’s a way to achieve what you want. So if you want more money you might create containers such as products, services or programs and investments. If you want better health, you might create containers around food prep, water. exercise and rest. If you want more time, you would create containers to organise and prioritise.
How to figure out what to do next
You know I love to journal and that so much goodness can come from spending some time with pen and paper. So here are some ideas for you think about:
- What do you feel you are playing small in?
- What do you feel scared to fully embrace?
- What do you desire or dream of with no limitations?
- If you knew you could not fail what would you do today?
Spend some time writing on each of these prompts, let you mind wonder without limitation. Release any expectation, idea of outcome. And let it flow. The more you dig into the depth of these questions, the more likely you are to find the true answers.
I know start my next journey into March, what lesson will these next 31 days hold for me? What will I uncover, discover, and fall into? I will let you know next month!